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You people in the West make it too difficult. If you want to be happy, stop doing the things that are bad for you and start doing the things that are good for you.     — His Holiness The Dalai Lama You are the light of your world. Just the way you are. Your light offers other people the opportunity to see situations in a ...

Acorns seem to offer the perfect analogy to illustrate the word “Potential”.  The first person ever to hold this tiny seed could never have imagined the towering oak that would come from such a tiny package. Even the most future-minded thinker would not be able to fathom the mighty oak destined to emerge.  Favorable conditions and an op ...

Do you want to know how to relax more? Elite athletes, such as the two champions who recently operated at their peak performance for a five-hour tennis match, demonstrate an optimal natural pattern to their exertion. It is a Sprint/Recovery pattern, in which you focus intensely and then recover and replenish your energy by doing something that full ...

A former client sent me a Holiday e-card with a note that she'd lost her job and with it, her family's health insurance.  In follow up emails she told me that she was part of a lay off last month,  she's been feeling sicker since she's left work and feels lost. She wants to work with me again and thinks it would help as it ...

It has been over ten years since I retired from my full-time practice and spent three months doing volunteer work and traveling in Southeast Asia. One of the best parts of my trip was spending time in the remote Himalayan kingdom of Bhutan. It was their monarch who defined the concept of Gross National Happiness (GNH) to measure quality of life. An ...

What resumes can’t do Let's face it, resumes are boring to write and worse to read. These days, most employers have software to read and prioritize resumes through the use of keywords. The goal of your resume is achieved if it brought you to an interview. But, there are many things you can’t express in your resume. Resumes on their own have no pe ...

Welcome back readers! And hang in there... Many people believe that we’re either born tough or weak, and our circumstances dictate how we turn out. I am a firm believer that we can all learn to be resilient, and our ability to bounce back is not based on our genetics or even our life experience. The most powerful, effective managers and leaders ar ...

Bad things happen, and we’re all mortal. Sometimes we forget that at work, and the death or illness of a colleague can be a great shock.   Nothing ever goes exactly as we had planned, and we constantly have to adapt and adjust to the events around us. Bouncing back from a major setback such as the death of a team member requires sensitivity a ...

The word “courage” seems to be such a “big” word in our culture since it is frequently associated with sensationalism and tragic circumstances; yet, it simply means, “heart.” On the extreme, courage is associated with the whistle blowers witnessed at WorldCom and Enron. Too me, “simply courage” is best quoted by Robert Louis Stevenson: “Everyday ...

Many of us act as though we all see the same reality, yet the truth is we don't. Human Beings have cognitive biases or blind spots. Blind spots are ways that our mind becomes blocked from seeing reality as it is - blinding us from seeing the real truth about ourselves in relation to others. Once we form a conclusion, we become blind to alternative ...

Long before it was a song, the saying was a part of our conversation - and it's especially appropriate during February, the month of love: Love makes the world go round. With all this whirling, love can make you feel off balance and dizzy. Sometimes it's tricky to keep your personal world turning without having it spin totally out of control. Alt ...

Love is always on our minds in February, is it not? Valentine’s Day can make those who are in love feel it even stronger, and it can make those who aren’t in a relationship yearn for it even more. But love isn’t just about whether or not we are in a relationship. It’s not about what present we get on Valentine’s Day. What is love really? Love is… ...

I was recently talking with a woman about addiction–specifically gambling.  We spoke more about the other four well-known addictions: alcohol, drugs, sex and food.  She went on to say that she did not have an addictive personality and there was nothing that she was addicted to.   I know from my work with people that EVERYONE has ...

Not since the Great Depression have so many fledgling adults moved into the empty nest with mom and dad. This cyclical trend has accelerated along with the economic crisis. Faced with school loans, debts or no job, it makes sense to head for home - with its emotional security and financial safety net. If you're a member of the Sandwich Generation ...

Now that your teens are in school again, are you concerned they're back to risky behaviors on the Internet - sending inappropriate sexual pictures and texts on their cell phones? If so, you're not alone. A recent survey of parents with children between the ages of 10 and 18 found their number one worry was not school shootings, bullying or grades ...

Simple mindfulness exercise for staying calm & centered. Greetings readers! Work can be hard. We’re all susceptible to stress and anxiety, but there are ways to counteract these things. Mindfulness is a mental state of awareness of all that is around us and inside of us. It is a state of calmness, where the body’s autonomic nervous system is ...

“Are you being too uptight?” I have to ask this question of myself sometimes in order to loosen myself up. What happens is that life can beat us up and it can stress us out Then, it creates a cycle of being stressed which leads to feeling like you need to be uptight in order to survive, which only leads to more stress, and so it goes around and aro ...

Do you notice when you squat to pick something up or get up from a low chair your knees creak or grind?  Or maybe when you go down stairs, one of your knees feels like buckling? Our knees take a lot of abuse from years of carrying our weight. For every 1 pound, we're putting 4 pounds of pressure on our knees. For example, 20 pounds of ex ...

"Every day, each of us makes a multitude of choices that will impact the quality of our lives. Some of these choices are minor and will only affect the next few minutes, hours or days, while others will completely change the direction of our lives. Some choices are easy to make, some are more difficult. Some will lead us straight to ...

When I woke in the middle of the night for the 3rd time to go to the bathroom (incontinence again!),  I found myself muttering.  Of course, the middle of the night is the worst time to think about anything, and I was panicking about what wouldn't get done today.   One thing I'm good at is capitalizing on what happens to me and u ...