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Embrace and Channel Your Anger

Written by Pat Sullivan

Sometimes blowing off steam is the best thing for you and those you love!

 

Do you ever wish you could run away from troublesome people? Does the idea of positive thinking ever make you want to gag? Do you envy a toddler's ability to clear the emotional air with a temper tantrum?

 

If so, Great Grandpa Kivette has a great time-out idea for you.

 

Stuck in a bad marriage at a time when divorce was unacceptable and marriage counseling unavailable, Grandpa fled to a cave whenever the tensions between him and Grandma threatened to turn violent. There, he safely stomped out his anger, pondered his problems and eventually found the courage to face his wife.

 

 

Intuition- Your inner GPS

 

Feeling anger is okay and often best worked out in private.

 

Find your pouting place, whether that's in a quiet setting or in a crowded city location.

 

Welcome your current emotions, even if they are negative.

 

While in this mental state, temporarily give up hopes of self-improvement.  
 
When Grandma named the cave "Grandpa's Poutin' Place," she meant it as an insult. Dad saw it differently. "Everybody needs a pouting place," he said. "Everybody needs a private cooling-off place where the only thing you can hear is your own thoughts."

 

Once, everyday tasks like chopping wood or beating rugs offered plenty of options for releasing anger. Woodshops and gardens offered private arenas for physically working out problems in relationships with those around us.

 

With a little creativity, you can also find good pouting places even in a noisy and crowded city. Almost anything athletic will work, especially running or whacking any kind of ball against a safe surface, as does sewing or knitting or other hobbies.

 

There's one caveat. To tap the magic of this special place, you must momentarily forgo any hopes of self-improvement. Instead, welcome your most crabby, obnoxious and frustrated self and let it come forward and express itself safely.

 

When Great Grandpa Kivette worked out his anger toward Grandma, he also had to face his own faults. The more he did so, the better able he was to deal with the faults of his wife. Like Grandpa, we all have some orneriness inside. Sometimes, the best we can do is to take our crabby self away for a while and give it the attention it needs to grow and heal.