Is your life an endless cycle, revolving around work and taking care of the kids? If so, you’re not alone. In a recent study by the Families and Work Institute, half of American women say they don’t have enough time to spend on themselves and to choose the activities they enjoy. We all know that saying ‘yes’ to more responsibility can make us feel safer with the boss and help us avoid conflict in the family. But too often ‘yes’ is our default mode with just about everything.
In a world of relentless demands, saying ‘no’ is highly underutilized. Of course, you can’t abandon the never ending to-do lists around work and domestic duties. But don’t you think you also deserve to identify your other, more personal priorities? Read More
If you’re a 'Helicopter Parent,' hovering and rarely out of touch, think about joining the grassroots movement that advocates giving teens space.
As you’ve noticed, there are lots of hormonal and brain changes going on in adolescence. You may feel ambivalent about backing off at this time, especially if your kids are under stress or emotionally fragile. But during these growing up years, a wide range of emotions comes with the territory. And learning to let go is best for them and for you. Here are some practical tips to try as you shift the responsibility from your shoulders to where it now belongs:
Encourage your teens to make their own decisions. Be supportive but have them deal with the consequences themselves. Give fewer directions while they're learning new problem solving skills. Although they’ll be faced with many choices, experience is a great teacher.
To be outstanding in life, you must be willing to stand out. When all you do is try to fit in, you negate the difference your uniqueness makes. Tall Poppy Courage is not about being better than anyone else, just being the best possible version of yourself.
Growing up on a farm in rural Australia meant growing up with something called the Tall Poppy Syndrome. It may sound like some ailment associated with cocaine addiction or a nasty chronic medical condition, but it's actually a cultural condition. While I'm not a cultural historian, I think it stems all the way back to our convict ancestors who were determined to create a more egalitarian society than the class system they left behind in mother England. And over the generations, it manifested into the self-deprecating Aussie culture that hailed the 'down to earth' and scorned anyone considered 'up themselves.' Standing out from the crowd meant risking being cut down like a tall poppy. Needless to say, it wasn't an environment that always inspired the entrepreneurial spirit.