Intimacy starts with an intelligent conversation, a verbal or nonverbal valentine. Our brains are designed to be social. Our need for belonging is more powerful than our need for safety. When we are rejected, we experience pain in the same centers in the brain and body as when we are in a car crash. Being emotionally orphaned is more painful than death.
When others show us love, respect, and honor us, it triggers the same centers in the brain as when we eat chocolate, have sex, or are on drugs.
Learning these emotional facts of life will change how you live, love and lead.
by Marci Garson
You’ve worked like a dog, raised your kids and now there’s a new equation: Volunteering one-on-one= win-win.
The first time we met 6 year–old Michael, he leaped out of his seat and threw his arms around my son Tosh. “My very own volunteer!” he exclaimed as the social worker gently reminded Michael, “Big boys don’t hug, they shake hands.” My son and I had already been prepped to be aware of our physical contact with Michael because, like the 300 other kids who live at The Pleasantville Cottage Schools in Westchester, NY, he had been physically and mentally abused and neglected.
Is your life an endless cycle, revolving around work and taking care of the kids? If so, you’re not alone. In a recent study by the Families and Work Institute, half of American women say they don’t have enough time to spend on themselves and to choose the activities they enjoy. We all know that saying ‘yes’ to more responsibility can make us feel safer with the boss and help us avoid conflict in the family. But too often ‘yes’ is our default mode with just about everything.
In a world of relentless demands, saying ‘no’ is highly underutilized. Of course, you can’t abandon the never ending to-do lists around work and domestic duties. But don’t you think you also deserve to identify your other, more personal priorities? Read More