How to successfully teach your kids to tell the truth. First, you have to be an example.
Are you catching your child in small lies, of the "I didn't do it" variety?
|Be a truthfulness model for your children.|
|Be aware that if your daughter hears you telling those innocent "little white lies," you are teaching her something about honesty.|
|Having her tell someone on the phone that you're not home is one little white lie.|
|Shrinking your child's age so that you can get the cheaper rate at the movies or at a restaurant is another.|
|Your child is usually more observant than you think.|
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If your daughter has chocolate on her face and the candy is gone, don't ask, "Did you eat that candy bar that was sitting on the counter?" Try instead, "I'm disappointed that you ate the candy bar without asking. That will be your snack for today."
It's more constructive to say, "Regardless of how it happened, the lamp is broken. What are we going to do about it?"
Resist the urge to lecture. Thank her for telling you and then focus on finding a solution or imposing a consequence, without anger. Don't say, "If you tell the truth, you won't be punished."
Kids sometimes lie because they feel they think it's easier than feeling like a failure. Take a look at how you respond to her mistakes or inadequacies, and make sure you leave room for imperfections.